Reviews gathered from the internet about the content of and results of Jodi Hildebrandt’s counseling and Connexions Classroom.
If you would like to make a formal business complaint against Jodi Hildebrandt and Connexions Classroom you can do so by contacting the Utah Attorney General.
If Jodi has provided counseling or therapy and you feel your rights have been violated you can also file a complaint with the Utah Division of Occupational and Professional Licensing (DOPL)
I would like to leave a review for others as a warning to avoid Jodi Hildabrandt and her teaching and philosophy at all costs. It cost me a marriage and she used a shaming me and others in the group I attended as control. My former wife and I had our issues but it wasn’t until we had individual sessions that these “distortions” she said were there…..turned into distortions that cost a marriage and divided a family. I once had a billing issue regarding the time of a session. She would frequently call me from her car with spotty service and our conversation would drop sometimes up to 10-15 minute. Yet she was charge me for the full session. When I approached her about it, she blew up and started yelling and accused me of trying to get more session time that I paid for. There is not one good thing about her or her program. It should be investigated for fraud and misconduct. For multiple HIPAA violations….she would share, by name, other clients information. She does more harm than good. Someone referred to her as a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”. I would refer to her as “Satan in Saints Clothing….” I will be spending as much effort that I can to warning people about her own distortion and shame she puts in others.
Dan – 3 Months ago
I have grave concerns about the organizations called “ConneXions Classroom” and “Moms of Truth” My husband and I took the first course for couples and benefited from being reminded to not tell ourselves unhelpful or untrue “stories” and to invite one another to listen when we feel we have another perspective to share. We are grateful for the correct principles we were reminded of through the course material. However, there were some serious red flags we witnessed while taking the course and through subsequent exposure to ConneXions. Though I recognize there is a need for helpful counseling to help heal relationships, destructive division is actually what ConneXions is perpetuating. The biggest problem I see is that Jody and Ruby do not use the principles they purport to teach. Instead of Golden Rule-type language and patient, understanding interactions, they often harshly and forcefully shame and batter people down in a brash and cruel manner when they ask questions or have concerns, (though they are very kind to those who agree with them.) In all fairness, Jody appears to have started off her career with noble intentions, but those intentions are all called into question by past and current professional peers who see her methods and manners as emotionally and mentally detrimental, even abusive. Ruby, who is known by many for her role as a Youtube influencer and a person trying to help families succeed at home, is a gifted and intelligent woman. But something has changed…. For example, Jodi and Ruby seem to think themselves synonymous with Truth (always written with a capital T), which makes it appear that there is some type of god complex going on, and it gives off the warning signs of a cult-like mentality. Ruby and Jodi quickly make judgments about a situation, without knowing (or seeking to know) enough of the of the details, and have been known to “reflect truth” by saying, “I feel sorry for you. It is obvious that you are lost…. your anxiety/depression/ suicidal tendencies are a result of not taking responsibility for your feelings…your children have no right to privacy…I recommend you kick your daughter out (regardless of her serious heart condition)” etc. The tone and way these mothers treat people and give advice commonly goes against nearly every principle taught in professional psychology, counseling, teaching, and mentoring; it is painful to watch and heart-wrenching to read about, knowing that desperate or faithful followers may very well follow their counsel. I feel obligated to warn those investigating ConneXions or “Moms of Truth” to be aware that these women have become master manipulators, who are expert at pulling vulnerable individuals in, making them doubt themselves, their spouses, children, siblings, etc, until they one day realize their own family relationships have disintegrated. Please look closely at the current lives and families of Jodi and Ruby and talk to their family members, immediate, and extended, before jumping into any counseling or training with them.
Female Requested Anonymity – 3 months ago
Jodi got my kids to believe all the lies their mother told them. She wasn’t given permission to speak to their mother. Told the children, as a professional, to block your father from being able to call, text or any other communication via cell phone.
Calvin – 4 months ago
I wouldn’t trust this company. They use brainwashing tactics to manipulate you, they intentionally make you feel bad about yourself and use slander. Please stay away from this company at all costs. They are a scam.Anna Marie – 6 months ago
I have a different history with Jodi than most. I am a pretty well-known therapist that was trained under Jodi for a year. As I was trained under her I saw her tear apart families and destroy relationships. I believe she is evil (I don’t say that lightly). I have done so much therapy for people coming out of her “cult” who were traumatized by her therapy. I don’t have an ax to grind but I am tired of watching people get hurt by her work. I’m reluctant to speak out against colleagues and other therapists. However, I wouldn’t mind somehow someway helping people see that she is dangerous.
Requested Anonymity – 9 months ago
They will ruin your family through mind control. They don’t want you to think for yourself and critically think. They want to shelter you. They are an actual cult. AN ACTUAL CULT. They also assaulted me so I’m suingVincent (Local guide) – a month ago
Had such a negative experience with Jodi. Hoping others will see this so they don’t have to go through what I did.Dashi Stock – a month ago
The expectations and Principles they set on young kids whom are still learning and making mistakes it’s horrible! Your not perfect so don’t expect your children or other kids to be. Highly DON’T recommend following these two, it’ll just make your kids life depressing. Just look on YouTube about the honest bad reviews about this so called “advice” business.Alliauna Baumgartner – a month ago
The information shared and spread by these people are disgusting. They are attempting to brainwash their clients. They pretty much believe that their “principles” are better than everyone else’s own personal morals and values. I gave them the time of day and went in unbiased to gain knowledge and understanding of their practices as I was interested in their approach but they couldn’t be sharing information that is further from the truth. They themselves are deceitfulDizzy Hazza – 2 months ago
I initially found out about this group on Facebook after one of the proprietors went after a school for playing music at a dance.
Jodi masquerades as a “Therapist and Educator” but on every platform she can control, silences anyone who says anything against her by blocking or removing comments. The hypocrisy is real and shameless. Do not recommend.Christopher Edmondson – 3 weeks ago
In the Facebook groups, every time, other people has given the advice that Ruby and Judi didn’t like, they would them it is not truth. Which people in that group has different advice, they should of disagree with them respectfully, not say you are not saying the truthRusscast Hut – a month ago
These so called women who are intended to teach parents on coaching is one of the most distraught thing I’ve ever seen. A mother who has been rightfully accused for being impulsive to her kids is now being able to give access to couples on how to become less distanced with children. You know what they always say what comes around goes around. Hopefully ruby’s kids don’t learn from her evil coaching and find a better life without her being involved in it. You can’t be upset when people tell you so called “rude things”. You only get called insults by people only if you deserved it. Jody is the reason the family is going to be a downhill. Hope they have fun torturing lives.Riri Grande – a month ago
Jodi removes people from her facebook group the second people questions her Truths even if they are genuinely interested and asking for feedback, she asks people to be humble but she herself has never displayed any humility. I was removed from the group for no reason and with no notice. I did not break a rule.Penny Van – 4 weeks ago
The things these women say are nonsensical. They throw around buzzwords like “truth” and “distortion” in a rambling word salad and never end up really saying anything at all. Seems very cult-ish, and one counselor has been in trouble and had her license revoked in the past for HIPAA violations while the other has no degree or background in counseling or psychology. It’s all very strange and a bit creepy, definitely stay far away from these people.Sorikai (Local Guide) – 2 months ago
Jodi and Ruby.. I’ll say it for you so that you do not have to respond with the same “I don’t know you and I have never taken one of your classes.” Those words seem to be your ongoing rebuttal for negative reviews. People are reviewing you based on your unqualified, harsh, distorted parenting advice that you are putting out on social media. This Ruby has made a living off of putting her children on social media for the world to see. Now that they are older she needs to regroup and and rebrand herself under the name “connexions” because so many people have spoken out against her parenting tactics. Please be aware of this “Connexions”.. These woman are not clinically qualified to counsel. They talk in circles using their favorite saying “You are living in distortion.” Please be careful who you seek out for guidance. This group could truly harm your children and your family life if you become brainwashed by this “cult like” community.Mary Waddingham – 4 weeks ago
I have listened to podcasts, I was in the private Facebook group (Moms of Truth with Jodi and Ruby) and watched classes sent via email. The advice given by this group is almost dangerous and borders on abuse. Some examples of advice given to parents include… Telling a mother to remove a 13 year old from their home. If the mom did not remove the child she was told to isolate the child from the rest of the family and 2 days after his 18th birthday kick him out of the house. They called a single adoptive mom selfish. Telling her she was selfish and did not think of creating a strong foundation for a child before adopting. They also say children do not deserve any privacy, a bed or a bedroom. In their opinion children do not have possessions. Everything a child owns in your home belongs to the parents. If a child has earned money they have no right to it because it belongs to the parents.
The advice that is the most destructive is given by Ruby Franke from the YouTube channel 8 Passengers. Ruby exploited her family for years and made a lot of money doing so. She has videos about her daughters periods and shaving their legs. She gave her children no privacy and now is giving parenting advice.
Before giving this company your money you need to really research who they are and what they believe in.
Edit: It is funny to me that I was accused of being a “child” for writing this review. I am actually a woman older than Ruby, far from a child.
All of my statements are true and if you would like to verify them you can check out their YouTube channel and their instagram account. I only scratched the surface of the parenting advice offered by this company. These women preach against control yet when they are challenged the block and delete.Elizabeth Anne – 4 weeks ago
From my interaction with them, they tend to delete comments and cut off people in their social media platforms (Facebook, Instagram, etc). Unfortunately, they are not as welcoming as they claim and will easily toss you aside if they feel you are not worthy. I was not worthy. I am flawed and “weak”. I am a human being who is still trying to learn more about myself and the world around me. But like God says “Love thy neighbor”. So I will love them even if they cast me away.Johanna Lawrence – a month ago
I have followed Ruby for years because of her lovely children & began looking in to Jodi and ConneXions because of her. I have been so disappointed with the extreme narcissism of Jodi & Ruby. They can never be wrong, they play god, insult others and pretend that only they know the TRUTH. However, all they are doing is causing distortion. If you listen to their advice, you will likely lose relationships with family members and when your kids are on their own, they will likely stop talking to you. Jodi and Ruby are controlling and mean spirited. Thank God I am saved by a God of mercy, joy and love. None of this is surprising now that I reflect on it, Ruby exploited her sweet children’s lives while depriving them of money, kindness, beds, love and privacy. She made money off embarrassing and shaming her own children! I feel extreme guilt that I have supported her and if any of her kids ever read this, please know that I am so sorry. You deserve better!! And so does anyone considering joining this cult. Please seek out a real therapist or even a genuinely kind and wise Christian counselor…this is not the way to go unless you want to be estranged from your family and like cruel, un-Christ like leaders. They are not loving, honest or humble. There are loving women of God out there, but they aren’t found here.Eli Rogers – 4 weeks ago
Jodi and her program seemed to have a heavy LDS influence, which aligned with my beliefs. After a while of fully buying in, and after a ton of money, something didn’t feel right. In the LDS Church General Handbook online. Read about Self-Awareness Groups. 38.7.11. The shoe fits. As with others, Jodi and her program had done more harm than good for me. Very extreme and shame based. Wolf in sheeps clothing. Maybe it has helped others, but it took me years to recover. My greatest act of “Self-Love” was to get out. As a single man, it was heartbreaking to see so many married men in my group kicked out of their homes at Jodi’s encouragement. My life has been better than ever after recovering from the damage caused by Jodi and her program. I found one of the many wonderful counseling options out there and beat my demons and have never been happier.James Swenson – 3 months ago
Jodi Hildebrandt is a FARCE. Her therapy will warp you into believing you inherited shame and a pocketful of insecurities that are inherent to the human race likely due to poor parenting. She likes to lay blame on others, separate her clients from their family, and rake in multiple therapy sessions by her self prescribed theory of thought that is baseless.Anonymous – 6 months ago
My wife and I took Jodi’s 101 class, which really resonated with me, I loved learning and a new perspective on relationships was exciting. In addition to the class, my wife and I met with Jodi individually and attended group. Jodi seemed to have the answer for so many social ills in how she talks about shame and her bold condemnation of lust and victim.
It’s been several years since then and I still talk frequently to other men who have found Jodi and are seeking recovery from addiction or are learning how to connect with others. I wish I could say I still have great feelings for the way she approaches therapy; however, I do not.
I think the 101 class and most of the older podcasts are great. I recommend those for anyone seeking to better understand themselves and connection. The principles taught there along with some common sense and a lot of love have been a huge blessing to me and my wife. Jodi is a great teacher in that respect.
On the other hand, I would not go again nor recommend anyone else see Jodi for individual or group therapy. I firmly believe seeing her for therapy is more damaging to connection than helpful.
Connection is taught in the 101 classroom, though when I first started group, I quickly realized those classroom principles are not followed in group and individual appointments with Jodi. This was quite confusing. I wondered things like “Why is Jodi sure my bishop has a lust addiction – isn’t that making up a story?” or “Why doesn’t Jodi clean up her control or irresponsibility, though she demands that of us?” “Why is Jodi’s feedback sometimes inconsistent or contradictory?” “Why are people offering feedback without first making sure this individual feels validated?” I sought answers from others and Jodi around questions like these; some answers appeased me, other questions were simply dismissed. To my detriment I chose to ignore pieces of information that seemed to conflict with principles taught in the class – I believed that Jodi knew what she was doing. That was my mistake.
The dilemma I have come to see is that all of us come to therapy somewhat broken emotionally—we’re looking for a way out and are not sure what not-broken looks like. So in the absence of any other model, individuals understandably try to apply the model demonstrated in Jodi’s office into their personal relationships.
This is where tragedy strikes because the way Jodi shows up in her office does not follow the same principles of connection she ironically teaches in the classroom, and following her example in personal close relationships does not and will not result in consistent connection.
Sadly due to this and so many other issues I wish I had space to name here, the fruit of therapy with Jodi very rarely results in a connected couple.
The following are some of what I see as the fruits of meeting with Jodi: Many of the men develop paralyzing fears of lust, of being irresponsible, and of Jodi herself. This is compounded by Jodi questioning their wives about how long they are going to put up with such behavior. The women develop fears of not doing it right or in truth, fear of what other women in group or Jodi will say about their behavior, and fear of enabling. Men are frequently booted from their homes by their wives in the spirit of not enabling lust or victim. LDS bishops are rebuked by women who believe they are enabling their husbands and living in lust themselves.
Another major fruit is divorce. Ten couples I have come to know personally divorced after therapy with Jodi. For other couples, the most frequent result seems to be a hard marriage where couples are good at identifying victim. In addition to my wife and me, I know of only a small handful of couples who from my perspective have come through with their marriage intact and are really ‘connecting’, in spite of therapy with Jodi. That is a tragedy.
Please, save your marriage, do not travel this road.Blue Ocean – a year ago
I have close friends and family that have seen Jodi for years. Per their suggestion, I set up an appointment with her. I have never been more uncomfortable in my life during a therapy session. I was so disgusted by how she was manipulating the conversation and the behaviors she was suggesting. My brother-in-law is currently enrolled at Harvard for grad school in psychology. He was able to help me voice where my discomfort was coming from. Needless to say, this woman plays God. she sets her clients up to depend on only her so she can keep collecting your money. She reminds me of the abuser in an abusive relationship. She isolates her clients by setting up unrealistic expectations so they believe all of their friends and family are toxic leaving them to only depend on her and her “support” phone calls. It makes me sad to think how many relationships she has poorly hurt. I began researching her to discover that her license has been effected for HIPPA violations, and sadly she didn’t learn her lesson… I witnessed this FIRST hand when my sister had confided in her with a private matter during an appointment session which later surfaced and negatively effected relationships and even trickled into my workplace. Gossip got around our community that was blown out of proportion. Save your money and sanity. Find a quality specialist with real credentials and possibly… good reviews.Jenny Hansen – a year ago
I saw Jodi for years. She did more damage than good. I told her I suspected I had Asperger’s Syndrome and she flat out told me that I was wrong. Come to find out, I do. And as someone with an Autism Spectrum Disorder, I need counseling a little differently than others. If she had listened to me and been willing to work with me on getting a diagnosis, I could’ve saved a lot of pain and heartache.Jenni Elyse – a year ago
I have listened to many of Jodi Hildebrandt’s podcasts, and her theories are based on nothingness, and operate upon a bait and hook philosophy of a commonality of shared experiences, with the hook being her own cure for redemption. Yes, she thinks she is the expert. She draws people in by sharing her own personal experiences, which are usually related to one of her 3 core principles: impeccable honesty, rigorous personal responsibility or humility. By sharing her own personal experiences, she always manages to get a few laughs. She has absolute theories of thought and considers everyone to live in some existence of guilt or shame. News Flash, I went the whole week without any feeling of Shame! Her absolutism is a constant theme with statements like this one: “It is not possible to have lived or live on this earth without a significant amount of faulty core beliefs”. Physician heal thyself. You have no right to categorize the human race into a lost and fallen state. Any therapy that separates a son away from his family is founded upon a wrecked philosophy of nothingness. When my son came to your for therapy, I sincerely tried to jump on your bandwagon, so that I could witness the light. For the life of me, I cannot make sense of your theories, your solutions and your topics. Why are there so many podcasts? Can the foils of the human psyche be dissected into that many pieces? Well, of course it can, if it is a business. Follow the money trail!Anonymous – 2 years ago
I can’t believe this woman is even still in practice. I have never met anyone so manipulative and so projecting of their own issues. I have recently come to realize that several other people’s marriages all ended in a similar fashion while under her control. If you want to improve your relationship, I suggest you see literally anyone else.Jacøb Daniel – 3 years ago
She is not a good person. I went to one of her ConneXion 101 classes because my wife has a friend who likes her, but after the class I looked her up and saw the review saying that her license was on probation. After that I called her and asked for a refund ($270 for the classes I wouldn’t be attending), because someone should not have to continue to pay a counselor for undelivered services when they learn that the counselor has acted illegally. She did not respond. I emailed her and their office, but they did not respond. I did the same thing two more times, and they still have not answered my emails and voicemails. I think I will have to get the police or attorneys involved to get my refund.
She is not a good person. Do not go to her. Of all the people I’ve met, she is the most like a wolf in sheep’s clothing. She is not a moral or respectable person. Do not trust her in any circumstance.Tom Blake – 4 years ago
SHE IS NOT WORTHY TO BE TRUSTED WITH YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIPS. My wife went to her counseling and classes, and the main result was that Ms. Hildebrandt brainwashed my wife that I had an addiction when I did not. My wife was so certain that I was hiding something as a result of this woman’s lies that we had to go to a honest counselor to help dispel this dishonesty that this woman had told my wife. DO NOT GO TO THIS WOMAN! Go to a specialist who is not a misandrist, who respects both members of the marriage, and does not spread so-called empowering lies.David Webb – 4 years ago
Her license was on PROBATION in 2012 for illegally sharing client information. Go to someone whose license has not been on probation.
For reference, Google “Jodi Hildebrandt Probation”.Henry McCoy – 4 years ago
I am very concerned with the unprofessional tactics used by this therapist. She was demanding and conclusory. Do your research on this professional and check references from both husband and wife. Her “treatment” is a slipperly slope of its own. If you have had a relatively strong and healthy marriage, stay away from her shame-based treatment.Ross James – 6 years ago
I recently took a 6 week course of counseling the summer of 2013. Costing $600 per person. Jodi has remained consistent with treating me the same negative way as these pots have claimed, it IS TRUE! She has intentionally exposed very confidential information to 3rd party persons, even including my family information that was NOT to be shared! She does this for personal & monetary gain. For me personally, she created more problems then she did help. For example, she has amplified the horrible trust issues that I have struggled with which now will be harder to break but, with a real professionals help I have confidence. She is still in a tornado of tearing apart my family, details of which I won’t discuss, because it’s still on-going. I have been singled out in her groups, but, also purposely ignored when it benefited her to keep my mouth shut so I don’t come in between her lies & my family members in the course with me. She’s very unprofessional, has no tact nor integrity. SHE CANNOT BE TRUSTED! Between the comments on this site & you can also find more by googling her name with SLC Tribune. I do believe in counseling, but from a professional whose license is not under PROBATION & OBSERVATION. My advice is to do your homework and find someone with positive accreditation. This isn’t me trying to bad mouth her, this is just my personal experience. Good luck to you all!Anonymous – 8 years ago
Do not be fooled by Jodi N. Hildebrandt. Her license is currently under probation and she is under supervision for breaking the law, engaging in unprofessional conduct, violating codes of ethics, and sharing PRIVATE patient information with multiple sources in order to pursue her money making agenda. Here’s a link to her latest offense. http://m.sltrib.com/sltrib/mobile/53846601-81/hildebrandt-church-doe-utah.html.csp DO NOT TRUST THIS WOMAN WITH YOUR LIFE, MARRIAGE, HAPPINESS, OR MENTAL HEALTH!!!! OR anything else that could possibly matter to you.Anonymous – 8 years ago
Several professionals and peers have serious concerns with Jodi Hildebrandt. She has been described as “combative” by her peers. Indeed, in our case where no pornography is involved, Jodi has drawn other erratic and erroneous relationship conclusions. Very unprofessional. One highly acclaimed professional informed me Jodi is one of two professionals that would never be recommended to others by their office.Anonymous – 10 years ago