Shame is the driver of all destructive behaviors. Shame motivates us to fear, hide, keep secrets, and to feel unworthy, unlovable, and/or not enough. It causes us to go into denial, and not be able to see the reality of our experiences. It causes us to engage in various forms of depression, self-destruction, and damage to others. It drives addictions of all types. The core concept of shame will prepare a foundation for all the other ConneXions© lectures to build upon.
This course includes:
- 12 video segments:
- Toxic Shame: General information and role-play examples
- Humility (Healthy Shame)
- How Toxic Shame Traps Us
- Toxic Shame in Detail
- Sources of Toxic Shame: Internalization
- Sources of Toxic Shame: Abandonment & Abuse
- Reflective Mirroring
- Other Sources of Toxic Shame
- Healing Toxic Shame
- Guilt is the Opposite of Shame
- Total video run-time: approx. 40 minutes
- Written homework activities
In this course, you’ll learn:
- The drastic difference between shame and guilt
- Why guilt is good, necessary and constructive, while shame is dishonest, self-defeating, and destructive.
- What we commonly feel shame around.
- How to break out of shame-based thinking.
- How to respond to shame messages.
- How to respond to guilt. Appropriate responses to guilt are quite opposite of appropriate responses to shame.
- In the associated homework activities, you’ll have the opportunity to do some self-analysis and find out how shame affects you personally. As you see shame for what it is, you will gain power to overcome it.