The term self-care means caring for oneself. Active self-care stems from a healthy view of oneself, love for oneself, and desire to care for oneself. These attitudes can be learned by applying strategies discussed in this course, including affirmations, reflection and meditation on personal questions, etc. Practicing habits of self-care helps us recognize our true value and worth, and reinforces those underlying desire to care for ourselves.
Human nature makes all of us susceptible to shame-based thinking, which warps our understanding of our own worth, and therefore reduces our desire to care for and nurture ourselves. This pattern, if unchecked, leads to vicious consequences for our relationships and for our ability to love self and others.
Self-care is not selfish. It is necessary. Self-care is like depositing money in a bank. If we do not deposit money, we cannot withdraw it to give it to others, no matter how generous we want to be. Good self-care habits enable us to be truly loving, selfless and compassionate. If we’ve built a reserve through self-care practices, we will be prepared when loving sacrifice is needed from us.
In this course, you will learn why we often struggle to generate the desire to care for ourselves. You’ll discover where we learn our self-care habits and messages, whether helpful or harmful. With fuller understanding of the problem, you’ll then learn specific, usable strategies you can apply in daily life which will improve your attitude towards and treatment of yourself, show you new insights about your needs and wants, and assist you to live in an empowering and prosperous manner.
Self-care fulfills us and prepares us to act consciously and with purpose. It prevents us from becoming co-dependentdependent on another person to fulfill our emotional needs. When we care for ourselves by validating our emotions, loving ourselves, taking time to care for our own needs, and using the other strategies discussed in this course, we have energy and vitality and strength to give to others. We can lead and act, rather than follow and be acted upon. Most of us find it challenging to care for ourselves. However, as we learn to do so, our lives become more fulfilling, more exciting, and we grow in our ability to love.
Self-care can be divided into several areas, such as physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, etc. It includes very pragmatic areas of daily living, as well as undergirding aspects of our character. Successful self-care includes:
- voicing emotions when we feel them
- Being honest
- Developing empathy for self and others
- Connections with ourselves, family, friends, others, and God
This course includes:
- 8 video lecture segments:
- What is Self-Care? (6:26)
- How we Learn to Self-Care (3:35)
- Ways to Care for Self (8:30)
- Responsibility to Care for Yourself (3:09)
- Knowing Yourself (4:58)
- Being Yourself (6:22)
- Affirmations (3:41)
- Self-Care Strategies (6:10)
- Total video run-time: approx. 45 minutes
- Supplemental Diagrams & Materials
- Written homework activities
In this course, you’ll learn:
- How self-care is related to shame how healing shame increases our capacities for self-care
- Where we learn our self-care behaviors (positive and negative), and how shame can be handed down inadvertently from these sources
- Areas of focus that will enhance your self-care habits, capabilities and desires
- Questions and strategies to know yourself better.
- Perhaps the most important question to ask ourselves is why? why do I feel this way? Why am I feeling angry, or afraid, or sad, or even happy?
- We have permission to feel every emotion no emotion is bad in and of itself.
- How self-care and self-love impact our inter-personal relationships
- Affirmations a strategy for counteracting shame by speaking truth to yourself
- Specific questions for personal reflection. These will help you shift into realistic, honest, open, and uplifting self-image, and improve self-respect
- Areas of focus and skillsets required for successful self-care