Often, safety simply means physical safety. Just as important, though often neglected, is emotional safety. This type of safety is crucial as we seek to establish relationships based on trust. Safety comes before trust, and requires honesty, openness, validation, understanding, and a willingness to empathize. When we are safe in a relationship, we know we will not be used or taken advantage of. When emotional safety is present, our relationships feel secure and we can relax, knowing that the other person has our best interests at heart. When we create safety in relationships, we also have the interests of the other person in our mind and heart.
When we experience relationships which lack safety, the effects of those experiences remain with us in the form of shame until they are properly dealt with. By healing shame and past hurts, we cease to be susceptible to similarly unsafe relationships in the future.
Only when there is safety should trust be given. Trust allows another person to see and experience our vulnerabilities. This kind of sharing is very important and healthy once safety is present. When safety has been violated or is not yet established, trust must not be given wholesale, as this creates a set-up for hurt.
When a relationship is safe, trust is a natural result. When trust exists, deep sharing, vulnerability, validation, and strong bonding can take place. These things lead to a great deal of personal empowerment: love for self and others, realization of great power to do good, and the creation of happiness, joy, satisfaction, and peace.
When we learn and live the characteristics of honor, such as responsibility, honesty, love, etc., we are extremely empowered. We become emotionally safe, trustworthy and capable of building and maintaining safe, trusting, intimate relationships. We develop self-discipline and self-control. As we become worthy of trust, our nature changes, our character improves, and we begin to trust ourselves (and others) more completely. We cease to take situations personally. We enjoy peace.
This course includes:
- 7 video segments:
- Safety (5:01)
- Emotional Safety (5:32)
- Personal History & Emotional Safety (4:36)
- Safety & Boundaries (6:19)
- The Safety Door (7:06)
- Trust & Empowerment (10:00 LDS / 8:05 Non-Denominational)
- Characteristics of Honor (1:48)
- Total video run-time: approx. 40 minutes
- Written homework activities
In this course, you’ll learn:
- What emotional safety is and why it is extremely important to human happiness & development
- Questions to assess whether you are in relationships with safe people
- Characteristics that indicate unsafe relationships
- How to recognize and change your own unsafe behavior
- What to do if you are already in an emotionally unsafe relationship
- Why we become susceptible to unsafe relationships
- How lack of safety is an outgrowth of past experiences and shame
- Examples of how safety, trustworthiness and trust empower us tremendously as individuals and in our relationships